Occasionally and against the odds, some couples are able to reconcile after a period of separation. Statistics based on couples getting back together after a separation show that while 87% of couples finally end their relationship in divorce after a separation, the remaining 13% are able to reconcile post-separation.

The thing is, when a man leaves his wife, or decides he wants another woman (who often has children of her own), that usually means not being a daily presence in his own children’s lives. It means he isn’t going to be taking a full part in helping with his family. It creates a sense of uncertainty in so many ways.

Sometimes men run away when they fall in love, looking to rekindle the spark of singleness. Why men leave the women they love could be any number of reasons. Toxic relationships, being used, feeling emotionally spent, or meeting someone new could also contribute to what makes a man leave his wife.

Another truth: Men have varying levels of remorse and guilt after cheating, whether their partners know anything about their affairs or not. Sometimes, when a man feels guilty for cheating, he is being eaten away. He feels deep remorse and regret. Some had no regrets about the cheating whatsoever.

Unfortunately, that doesn’t mean they regret cheating. Most people who have cheated on a partner don’t necessarily regret the act of cheating until they are caught. This suggests that they aren’t really remorseful for the act, but rather, regret what they are likely to lose now that the cat’s out of the bag.

Can a cheater change his or her ways? Yes, if you give them a chance, marriage therapists say. We’ve all heard the same, tired cliche about infidelity: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

But when the initial shock from cheating subsides, the physical pain will turn into long-term emotional pain. Getting cheated on will cause a man to have: High anxiety. Severe depression.