Some have suggested that true altruism doesn’t even exist. After all, helping out someone else generally involves some cost or risk to you: either you’re expending Expend (verb) : to spend or use up a resource 1 valuable energy or you’re putting yourself in danger, all for the well being of another.

Although helping others can benefit our health, happiness, and relationships, being too caring can sometimes have downsides. For example, people who are especially selfless may end up feeling exploited in their interpersonal relationships, or burned out in their jobs.

5 Tips On How To Be Less Selfless

1. 1) Ask For Help And Take It.
2. 2) Recognize Your Needs And Take Care.
3. 3) Say No When It Jeopardizes Yourself.
4. 4) Make Fewer Sacrifices.
5. 5) Do Things For You.

4 Types of Selfish People and How to Deal with Them

• Mr/ Ms. Marvelous.
• The Manipulator. These types of people know exactly how to get what they want and will tell us what we want to hear, regardless if they mean it or not.
• The Martyr.
• The Control Freak.

One of the biggest problems with anxiety is that it can cause a person to become pretty self-absorbed or even selfish. They can understandably get wrapped up in their own fears, worries, and stress and tend to forget about everything else and everyone else around them.

How to stop enabling

1. Remind yourself of the reasons you want to change.
2. Find more effective ways to manage your anxiety.
3. Get support (therapy or Al-Anon can be helpful).
4. Notice your feelings and needs and practice self-care.
5. Be clear about your boundaries – what you expect, what you will tolerate, what you will and won’t do.