If you become upset or angry, it can make things very difficult, and it’s also hard to trust someone who is mad at you. If emotional upset happens on a regular basis, your relationship will be unable to grow, and it will slowly degrade if you don’t find a way to be nice to each other again.

We all need to feel that our lives have meaning and value. When you meet your fundamental emotional needs it helps to soothe the mind and body, creating fertile ground for inspiration, passion and an expansive fulfilling life. When important needs are not met, people can fall prey to emotional distress.

Everyone has emotional needs. Consider basic survival needs like water, air, food, and shelter….

• Affection. Most relationships involve different kinds of affection:
• Acceptance.
• Validation.
• Autonomy.
• Security.
• Trust.
• Empathy.
• Prioritization.

Emotional needs are feelings or conditions we need to feel happy, fulfilled, or at peace. Some examples of emotional needs might include feeling appreciated, feeling accomplished, feeling safe, or feeling part of a community. As humans, we seek emotional nourishment as much as food and water.

The 10 emotional needs are:

• Affection.
• Sexual Fulfillment.
• Intimate Conversation.
• Recreational Companionship.
• Honesty and Openness.
• Physical Attraction.
• Financial Support.
• Domestic Support.

What are the emotional needs of a man?

• He needs you to tell him you’re proud of him. Men LIVE to make their woman proud.
• He needs you to trust him with your heart. What does this mean?
• He needs you to accept him for who he is.
• He needs you to be into him.

For men, on average, the top 5 needs are:

• Sexual fulfillment,
• Recreational companionship,
• An attractive spouse/mate,
• Domestic support, and.
• Admiration.

Women love honesty and trust. Women love a man that can carry himself well. Women want to feel important to you. Women love a man that makes them feel heard.

Even though he may never verbally say so, your man wants you to be happy, interested in his interests and to show you want him by initiating sex at times. He also deeply wants to be praised, acknowledged and respected by you, to encourage him to adventure, and to be confident in him and his abilities!

It’s all about the “three P’s.” “We profess, we provide and we protect,” he says. “A man has got to see where he fits into the providing and protecting role.

Three P’s Of Life: Peace, Patience And Persistence.

Marcus Lemonis believes that the three “P”s successful businesses need to manage are People, Process, and Product. Of the three “P”s, “people” are the most important. Without good people, good processes and good products only do so much.

A Gentleman Protects Her Heart If a gentleman is interested in a girl, he won’t ask her to “hang out.” He protects her heart by guarding his own. She’ll never catch him staring at other women. He won’t cheat on her, and he keeps boundaries when he talks to other women.

“When in love, a man will begin thinking of your [his partner’s] needs and wants before his,” Hershenson says. “He becomes willing to compromise and makes sure you [his partner] feel safe and supported.”

Sometimes men hurt the women they love because they’re stressed out. Some husbands or boyfriends blame their abusive behavior on work stress, unemployment stress, school stress, or even just life stress. If your boyfriend lives with a lot of stress – which most of us do – then he may say stress is why he abuses you.

A guy will only change his mind for the woman he loves. And in a lot of relationships — or pseudo-relationships, rather — guys may not take the women they’re fraternizing with seriously. If a guy sees your relationship as a purely physical thing, he’s not going to be as fond of your opinion as he is of your body.

Anger comes from love. You can not get angry unless you care about something. It is impossible to feel anger without love. Understanding this on a deep level and developing the ability to witness this within yourself will change your relationship to anger completely. Your anger is there to serve you.

If you’ve found yourself struggling with this issue, here are seven tips for telling someone you’re hurting.

1. Choose Your Words Carefully.
2. Be Prepared For All Outcomes.
3. Write A Letter — But Don’t Always Send It.
4. Use “I Feel” Statements.
5. Express Positives With Your Negatives.
6. Be Specific.

The Forgiveness Protocol

1. Say you are sorry.
2. Make an inventory of how your behavior might have hurt or harmed someone.
3. Say you are sorry again.
4. Tell the other person exactly how you understand the costs of your behavior, and allow the other person to vent, elaborate, or reiterate as needed so that the other person really feels heard.

But make no mistake: it is okay to feel hurt and it is okay to let people know they hurt you. At Stenzel Clinical, we’ve seen what happens when pain is bottled up. Here’s how you can tell people about what they’ve done without escalating the conflict. Use “I” statements, not “you” statements.

Here are 10 critical steps to help forgive someone who keeps hurting:

1. Move Away From The Past.
2. Reconnect With Yourself.
3. Avoid Going To Sleep Angry.
4. Stop Blaming Others.
5. Avoid Trying To Control People.
6. Learn The Art of Letting Go.
7. Aim To Be Kind Instead of Being Right.
8. Embrace The Dark Times.

7 Steps to True Forgiveness

1. Step 1: Acknowledge. Acknowledge the hurt.
2. Step 2: Consider. Consider how the hurt and pain has affected you.
3. Step 3: Accept. Accept that you cannot change the past.
4. Step 4: Determine. Determine whether or not you will forgive.
5. Step 5: Repair.
6. Step 6: Learn.
7. Step 7: Forgive.

What Does the Bible Say About Forgiving Someone Who Has Harmed You? Matthew 6:14-15 NIV, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

In a word – absolutely! When we forgive someone, instant healing doesn’t come (especially when the hurt causes deep emotional wounds). Once forgiveness takes place, we can choose to be intentional in the healing process.

Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect your behavior, and work to release them. Choose to forgive the person who’s offended you. Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life.