Think of this as your yelling rehab manual, a 10-step guide to gaining control over the outside voice.

Reassure your daughter that your partner will not in any way take the place of your relationship with her. You may need to identify ways that you and she can continue to spend individual time together nurturing your relationship. Ask her for ideas on what she would like to see.

Your daughter is 22 years old and an adult, even if she lives with you, you have no right to interfere in her relationships. Unless her boyfriend is violent or causing other harm than leave them alone.

1. Know your triggers.
2. Give kids a warning.
3. Take a time out.
4. Make a Yes List.
5. Teach the lesson later.
6. Know what’s considered normal behaviour.
7. Be proactive.
8. Adjust your expectations.

Often when we get angry at our children, it’s because we haven’t set a limit, and something is grating on us. The minute you start getting angry, it’s a signal to do something. No, not yell. Intervene in a positive way to prevent more of whatever behavior is irritating you.

In neurological terms, when your child is having a meltdown, they are experiencing an “amygdala hijack.” The emotional part of their brain is reacting to a stressor as if it were a predator, and this triggers a “fight, flight or freeze” reaction.

7 Ways to Help a Child Cope With Anger

1. Teach Your Child About Feelings.
2. Create an Anger Thermometer.
3. Develop a Calm-Down Plan.
4. Cultivate Anger Management Skills.
5. Don’t Give In to Tantrums.
6. Follow Through With Consequences.
7. Avoid Violent Media.

Tantrums occur at any age. Though you may not call it a tantrum beyond toddler or preschool age, children, teens, and adults alike can emotionally lose control. Anger is not bad or negative. You should not avoid or shut down the experience of it.

Children in this age group might:

• Show more independence from parents and family.
• Start to think about the future.
• Understand more about his or her place in the world.
• Pay more attention to friendships and teamwork.
• Want to be liked and accepted by friends.

5 Ways to Handle Disrespectful Behavior From Children

1. Ignore Attention-Seeking Behavior.
2. Use When/Then Statements.
3. Provide an Immediate Consequence.
4. Use Restitution.

If problem behaviour is causing you or your child distress, or upsetting the rest of the family, it’s important to deal with it.

1. Do what feels right.
2. Do not give up.
3. Be consistent.
4. Try not to overreact.
5. Talk to your child.
6. Be positive about the good things.
7. Offer rewards.
8. Avoid smacking.