Rebuilding Trust

12 Tips to Break a Lying Habit

1. Find triggers.
2. Know your lie type.
3. Set boundaries.
4. Consider the worst.
5. Start small.
6. Maintain privacy.
7. Evaluate the goal.
8. Learn acceptance.

It’s hard not to take being lied to personally, but pathological lying isn’t about you. The person may be driven by an underlying personality disorder, anxiety, or low self-esteem. When talking to the person about their lies, remind them that they don’t need to try to impress you.

1. Decide to forgive or to be forgiven. Make a conscious decision to love by trying to let go of the past.
2. Be open to self-growth and improvement. You can’t repair broken trust with just promises and statements of forgiveness.
3. Be aware of your innermost feelings and share your thoughts.
4. Want it to work.

Cheating is fairly common. According to a 2015 poll by YouGov/The Economist, one in five Americans admit to having been unfaithful within the context of a committed relationship.

How to Move Forward when someone cheats

1. Make sure there is remorse.
2. Be honest about why it happened.
3. Remove temptations to re-engage with the affair.
4. Move forward with brutal honesty and care.
5. Be selective about who you tell.
6. Consider working with a licensed therapist.

Fortunately, there are seven key ways to get over someone you love so that you can move forward for good in every sense of the word.

1. Accept the Reality of the Situation.
2. Rely on Your Support System.
3. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone.
4. Don’t Be Your Own Worst Enemy.
5. Look Toward the Future.
6. Take a Break from Social Media.

Your spouse exhibits signs of low self-esteem. You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about him or herself. Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs. When you ask for reassurance about cheating, you do not feel satisfied with the response.