Anger is a negative feeling state that is typically associated with hostile thoughts, physiological arousal and maladaptive behaviors. It usually develops in response to the unwanted actions of another person who is perceived to be disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful.

I love this quote on leadership by Lao Tzu: “Worst is the leader who is despised. Next the leader who is feared. Then the leader who is loved. The good leader is the one where people say ‘we did it ourselves.

They’re rational. In the face of crisis or danger or even gross incompetence, they remain steely-eyed, focused, and on point. They don’t get angry–or at the very least they don’t show their anger. Unless, of course, they happen to be Steve Jobs.

Here are six best practices to help you deal with work situations that cause your temper to flare up.

1. Pause what you’re doing, and take a break.
2. Own up to your anger.
3. Avoid making assumptions.
4. Learn how to manage your emotions – especially when under pressure.
5. Consider leadership training.
6. Practice self-care.

When Anger Strikes

1. Take several deep breaths.
2. Repeat a calming word or phrase in your mind, such as “relax” or “stay calm.”
3. Slowly count to 10.
4. Ask yourself, “How would my favorite leader handle this situation?”
5. Avoid tensing up your muscles.
6. Listen to your favorite music.

To express anger – thesaurus

1. blow up. phrasal verb. to suddenly become angry and shout at someone.
2. flare. verb. to suddenly become angry or violent.
3. fume. verb. to feel or show a lot of anger.
4. seethe. verb. to be extremely angry.
5. vent. verb.
6. let rip. phrase.
7. have/throw a fit. phrase.
8. give vent to. phrase.

SYNONYMS FOR angry 1 irate, incensed, enraged, infuriated, furious, mad; provoked, irritated.