To an outsider, someone with a victim mentality might seem overly dramatic. But this mindset often develops in response to true victimization. It can emerge as a method of coping with abuse or trauma. Facing one negative circumstance after another can make this outcome more likely.

Blame protects your ego. In a way, blaming is form of social comparison that is status-seeking. If you blame someone, it puts you in the superior seat, making you feel more important and the ‘good’ person as opposed to their ‘bad’. Of course some people use blaming to make themselves a victim.

2. Abstract. People who suffer from the victim syndrome are always complaining about the ―bad things that happen‖ in their lives. Because they believe they have no control over the way events unfold, they don’t feel a sense of responsibility for them.

1. Step 1: Check Yourself and Drop the Label. “She is such a victim, I don’t want to deal with her” or “victims are so draining”.
2. Step 2: Validate don’t resist.
3. Step 3: Speak to and listen for commitment.
4. Step 4: Incorporate the physical body.
5. Step 5: Support action.
6. Step 6: Follow up.

A child with a “poor me” attitude blames everyone else for their unfortunate circumstances. 1 They’ll insist that everyone is out to get them. they may even provoke others on purpose, so they can evoke a negative reaction that will reinforce their notion that everyone is mean to them.

What If I’m The One Who’s Always Playing the Victim?

1. evade responsibility for your actions;
2. get sympathy and support from others;
3. make people feel guilty;
4. manipulate people into giving you what you want;
5. always feel right;
6. judge others for not being compassionate enough;

You can release yourself from the chains of victimhood using these 10 steps:

1. Stop blaming others.
2. Be compassionate to yourself.
3. Practice gratitude.
4. Resist self-sabotage.
5. Perform acts of kindness to others.
6. Forgive and let go.
7. Build self-confidence.
8. Find the source of your learned helplessness.

How to Stop Being Gaslighted

1. When you’re with a gaslighter, be very aware of what they’re saying and doing around you.
2. Create an untouchable belief of yourself and what you know to be true.
3. Keep it simple when dealing with the gaslighter and know their true motive is one thing.

Here are some ways to start.

1. Practice mindfulness. Because gaslighting can alienate us from our own thoughts and feelings, the first step is simply listening.
2. Keep a feelings journal.
3. Affirm your own feelings and opinions.
4. Find professional support.

Here are eight tips for responding and taking back control.

1. First, make sure it’s gaslighting.
2. Take some space from the situation.
3. Collect evidence.
4. Speak up about the behavior.
5. Remain confident in your version of events.
6. Focus on self-care.
7. Involve others.
8. Seek professional support.

One sign of gaslighting is when a parent denies their child’s lived experiences. “An individual may describe an experience from the past where they felt socially isolated by friends or scared of a parent’s reaction, and the parent’s response is a denial of the event,” psychoanalyst Babita Spinelli, L.P., explains.