Two universities found “smart people were more likely to blurt out the wrong answer because they actually make more mental mistakes when problem-solving,” Bradberry wrote. “Smart people are more prone to silly mistakes because of blind spots in how they use logic.

The answer to this puzzle can be explained by what we can call “The Ego Effect.” In essence, The Ego Effect suggests that you’re prone to making the same mistakes over and over again when you protect your beliefs instead of learning from your mistakes and changing your beliefs in response to conflicting evidence.

Once you know what you want to work on, consider these points.

1. Vowing to never make a particular mistake again is the wrong approach.
2. Develop strategies for prevention.
3. Put aside time and mental energy.
4. Develop strategies for harm minimization.
5. Understand your “Seemingly Irrelevant Decisions.”

Even though what happened to us in childhood shows up in our parenting, this doesn’t mean we are doomed to repeat the mistakes of our parents. We can come to recognize that our “instinctive” reactions are not always representative of how we want to parent.

“Toxic parent” is an umbrella term for parents who display some or all of the following characteristics: Self-centered behaviors. Your parent may be emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, or perhaps uncaring when it comes to things that you need.

The data suggest that our parents’ parenting methods have no noticeable effect on our permanent personality traits.

It’s completely normal, and expected really, to despise your parents when they’ve abused or abandoned you. Or even if they’ve never laid a hand on you but held you to unrealistic expectations or forced you to live a life you don’t desire.

Your mother does have a right to hit you (there is a limit though…she cannot use objects that cause severe injuries, to hit you and should not hit you in such a way that causes severe damages to your body) but only if you were being a disobedient child.

When your mom hits you it is child abuse, which is illegal. This alone is something that no one should ever have to go through. When she forces you to strip and take showers in front of her it is also child abuse, and you don’t deserve to go through it.

Respond. Keep your responses simple, polite and in a measured tone of voice. Don’t allow any sarcasm or anger come out in how you sound because your parents might think that you are being resistant or passive aggressive. Also, avoid trying to give your opinion or account of what happened during the yelling.

The release of tension that brings us to acts of aggression when we’re mad is thought to be stress-relieving. Yelling, screaming, slamming doors, throwing things—these are all considered to have the same venting effect.

Controlling the destruction of something gives us a sense of power and can also produce other feelings such as awe. Feeling in control is a basic human need and one theory posits that deliberately destroying things is incredibly satisfying because it makes us feel powerful.

Hit a tin trashcan with a baseball bat. Throw balloons filled with water. Collect twigs and sticks and break them. Run or other physical activity while focusing on the anger.

Anger is a basic emotion that everyone feels from time to time. But punching a wall isn’t a helpful way to deal with anger. Not only will you hurt your hand and potentially damage property, you might even get angrier.