How to Protect Yourself from a Narcissist or Machiavellian

– The effectual truth is a knowledge that produces results (the knowledge he offers in “the Prince”), not just telling cliché stories about justice and clarity – Shows a shift from archaic political though to the modern emphasis in practical control – knowing how to get things done when you want is paramount to rule

Machiavelli’s The Prince The theory that The Prince was a satire came into popularity in the 19th and 20th century but the predominant school of thought today is no, the work was not a satire and merely Machiavelli’s observations on rule based on the conditions in 13th and 14th century Italy

1. DO:
2. Set boundaries and stick to them
3. Accept the reality of their character and their behavior
4. Be aware of your own vulnerabilities, and manage them
5. Build supportive relationships
6. Try to establish win-win outcomes, whenever possible
7. DON’T:
8. Do not rely on promises made by the offender

Machiavelli desperately wanted to return to politics One of his goals in writing The Prince was to win the favor of Lorenzo de’ Medici, then-governor of Florence and the person to whom the book is dedicated; Machiavelli hoped to land an advisory position within the Florentine government

In it, Machiavelli outlined his vision of an ideal leader: an amoral, calculating tyrant for whom the end justifies the means The Prince not only failed to win the Medici family’s favor, it also alienated him from the Florentine people

Thesis – It is better to be feared than loved, but not hated Important points- A prince’s ultimate goal is to maintain the state; fear will ensure the obedience of the people Machiavelli says a Prince must avoid being hated because hatred can overcome fear

A prince who earns this reputation will gain respect, and “against a man who is highly esteemed conspiracy is difficult, and open attack is difficult” A prince must have two fears: “internal subversion from his subjects; and external aggression by foreign powers” A ruler can defend himself against foreign foes by

Machiavelli then asks whether being feared or loved is preferable Ideally, a prince should be both loved and feared, but this state of affairs is difficult to attain Forced to make a choice, it is much better to be feared than loved

Niccolo Macchiavelli, an Italian Renaissance historian, philosopher and writer, is famously known for the quote, “It is better to be feared than loved, if one cannot be both”

Niccolo Machiavelli Quotes It is better to be feared than loved, if you cannot be both

Machiavelli states that theoretically, you can be feared and loved He also says that if you cannot be both feared and loved, choose to be feared To quote Chapter XVII of “The Prince”: You love them of course, but you aren’t afraid they will take anything away from you

“it is much safer to be feared than loved because love is preserved by the link of obligation which, owing to the baseness of men, is broken at every opportunity for their advantage; but fear preserves you by a dread of punishment which never fails”

Quote by Tony Stark: “Is it better to be feared,or to be respected?

Put simply, fear is forced, while respect is earned While it’s true that children may comply with the desired behavior if they fear what might happen otherwise, the eventual outcome is very different from motivation centered in respect

Answer Explanation: Nature is both to be feared and respected When we do merciless things to nature ,Nature in turn reacts by bringing out natural calamitie

Receiving respect from others is important because it helps us to feel safe and to express ourselves Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they’re different from you or you don’t agree with them Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing

Disadvantage of receiving respect is you can get habitual to it and may start demanding it

• People can trust you
• Feel the need that they found a perfect bestfriend
• Talk to you about anything without being judge
• Ask you out of your comfort questions
• Want to introduce you to more people that will like you

What It Means to Teach People How to Treat You

1. Start with yourself
2. Talk about your “rules of engagement”
3. Communicate your needs clearly and compassionately
4. Model how you’d like to be treated
5. Reinforce behaviors you like
6. Pick a role model to emulate
7. Have realistic expectations

The moment you lose respect for someone is the moment you realize that you’ve run out of chances to give out to those who don’t know how to respect you or treat you right and it’s the moment they realize that you were right when you told them that once the respect is gone, you won’t be able to stay, you won’t be able

How to Regain Your Self-Respect Once It’s Lost

1. Know that you can rebuild
2. Accept your mistakes and pledge to do better
3. Stop worrying what other people think and stay true to your core values and beliefs
4. Work on changing your perceptions – of yourself and others
5. Hold yourself to ambitious standards
6. Believe in your choices once you make them